how do you work out?

*flips tyre*

I have noticed a surge of personal workout vids on my very Bruneian instagram lately (i have two accounts, one with alot of follower, mostly Bruneians the other is a more controlled account). and I’ve been seeing a hell lot of tyre flipping. if they’re not flipping tyres, they’re doing box jumps in hotel rooms replacing boxes with beds..so basicly they’re just jumping on their hotel beds lah. like who the fuck does this? if i had an air bnb and i found out that my guests were doing jump drills on my bed..i would be very dissapointed. wouldn’t you? anyway common courtesy isn’t really the issue here. I’m just sick of scrolling through a feed of tyre flips, box jumps , kettle ball swings, mountain climbs and what have you! sometimes i wonder if i should get my instagram account checked for doping.

if you are not a professional coach or promoting your own gym..i’m sorry. but you’re at the risk of looking like a paloi idiot. banar pulang, i dont deny that it’s good for self motivation .. but we wont be having this conversation if you posted a video of you planking for 10 days straight. but u know that aint going to happen esp when instagram limits video uploads to ONE MINUTE. ani mun ganya planking sikit2, mengangkat sikit sikit.. baik ku mengupload video ku begaru. kira sama lah istilahnya cematu……. trivial.

fine. i was at one point of my life guilty of advertising my daily runs on instagram…to be clear, NEVER actual videos of me running though… but i have also stopped doing this because i realised that if i thought org lain looked obnoxious doing it… it’s probably the same when i do it!

*flips tyre*

ok lah aku bagi diskaun..mun seminggu sekali aku meliat kau planking mcm buaya di sungai aku bagi chan lah ah…tp mun hari hari…kau kan TRX FGX MXX O XX LXX F XX XXX arah feed ku….sorry. i cant guys. i mean if its a lompat jauh kah… balance beams kah..floor excercise yang pakai ribin ribin atu lah ok lagi, syok lagi ku melayan …KU SCREEN SHOT LAGI TU KAU MAIN RIBIN RIBINI AH …KU VIRAL KAN……..ani doi mun ganya inggan lumpat lumpat atas katil… flip flip tayar……u must be out of ur flippin mind.

*flips tyre*

so i know at this point some of you are probably going.. block plang jangan plang di liat..

well.. its hard because you can’t pick and choose what u want to to see on ur feed and i dont understand whyyyyyy these people insists on posting up a video when you can use the story option instead. that way, it’s easy to fucking MUTE you….to death.

so guys…i beg of you…

bring back the baby photos…………………………………………………………………………….not.

*flips finger*

this is why i have two fucking instagram accounts.

fml.

btw. dimana drg membali tayar basar2 atu ah? im just thinking about the countless number of 3 wheeled monster trucks driving around brunei at the moment…

huhuhu.

sigh. why do we always have to conform? just because everyone is doing it, doesn’t mean that you have to.

kiss me.

aggressively opinionated

i have a tendency to be aggressively opinionated. this is not a secret. i’ve even lost a few friends because of it. some friendships are permanently broken but gratefully the ones that matter eventually came around and we’ve picked up the pieces to slowly accept each other again.

Just so you know, the bluntness is never malicious and it’s always coming from a good place. I always find myself biting my tongue and keeping to the mantra of “not saying anything if you don’t have anything nice to say”.

ive realised that my frankness is both my strength and weakness. not all appreciate it and im working on sugar coating my words a little bit better. i dont like to see people hurt. even if sebenarnya, actually nya, actualliest nya i mean well.

anyway, turning 32 in a few weeks. planning a very colourful birthday MONTH. Will be doing a little bit of travelling (expecting CAKE at every single stop :P) and hopefully i will also get some soul searching in the mix.

Pretty content with life at the moment. Im neither overjoyed or unhappy .. but im ok. im somewhere in between. Alhamdulillah. I have to maintain this level of gratitude for everything that’s going well in my life.

i hope everyone has been good too.

smell ya later.

kiss me.

Love story with Melbourne.

Melbourne, It has always been a little hipster. Its alleyway restaurants, hidden hair salons , rooftop bars, the coffee and brunch culture. soooooo hipster. long before hipster was even a thing…i think it was just ‘COOL’ to be doing these sort of things back in those days. Coolster.

I don’t know if it was the exhaustion from not taking any leave from Jan – Nov last year but I remember waking up one morning, utterly dissapointed that i didn’t get to have a bite of the Max Brenner waffle which popped up in my dreams. I was so close to putting it in my mouth when i was woken up by my alarm. true story yo. As my heart broke into little pieces i proceeded to book myself a 10 day trip to Melbourne which happened in December.

It was good to be back. My best friends were still around. I also made it a point to have coffee with Ms. Khoo. Some of my old readers would be familiar with this name. She was the Boarding house caretaker whom i met when i was just shy of 16. It was in good timing too cause it was her last week at MLC. Although i would’ve liked to take a tour of my old school (it was closed for summer hols), seeing Ms Khoo was enough. It was like time had stood still. I had never left. She shared anecdotes and little pieces of her life over coffee and hotcakes at one of the many new “hipster” establishments that had opened a few blocks down from my old school. She told me how she used to be a teacher and why she migrated to Australia. She also reminded me how i blew thousands of dollars at Nandos. It was wonderful catching up.

Of course, another reason to go to Melbourne if not for the waffles was to catch up with the Hassan sisters. There’s Nawa the middle child, who i was best friends with first. and then Nadia the eldest girl who was my best friend second..and then Nadirah the baby of the bunch who i got closer to towards the end of my time in University. It was also a good opportunity to reintroduce myself to the now 2 year old baby Z-girl and my first time meeting 2 month old Z-boy. In short, it was a family reunion. from a different father, different mother kind of family reunion.

We spent our time doing what we did best: laugh, eat, laugh, eat, laugh and laugh and laugh. I These people were just the ‘holiday’ i needed..best part is that I got my waffle and i ate it too!

Surrounded by familiar people, it might seem like Melbourne has not changed. But walking around the city, a part of me understood that it had. Hipster has somewhat grew mainstream..and our “secret” hangout spots were now tourist attractions,quiet tram rides were unheard of and Gong Cha has replaced Starbucks and made its mark on each and every corner of the city.

The understated European vibe it once had has now progressed into something more confident. I would associate it to the likes of Singapore or Hong Kong. Not necessarily bad – i guess one just has to accept that things change.

I went home with a happy tummy, chubbier cheeks, very tanned skinned and higher spirits. That was one of the best vacations of my life. What was also good is that I managed to reflect on my past and present. Being back in Melbourne after a long time did trigger alot of emotions most of which were little regrets here and there ..like how i wished i had indulged in the Botanical gardens.. how i wished i had properly taken up sports in school..how i wish, how i wish, how i wish… u know all the little opportunities that i missed.

Now, coming back to my life in Belgium. This could be my last year and i do not want to come back 10 years later and wished i had done more of the things that i should’ve done when I was here. So this year, i’m going to have to change my mindset a little. Stop whining and just bask in this moment and take on the opportunities like Carpe freaking diem!

I’ve been back in Brussels 3 weeks. And although im missing the sun and struggling to self medicate my homesickness i refuse to let it permeate. Andangnya namanya life ani kan? sometimes you upstairs sometimes you downstairs but don’t give up 🙂 no one should give up living just because things are not going their way. Everyone is fighting their own battle.

My prayers go out to those who were affected by the Car attacks last week in Melbourne.

I had a feeling that my trip to Melbourne was calculated, and i knew i had met you for a good reason. You are in god’s hands now. Rest in peace baby boy. Alfatihah.

love,
Teytey.

balum lagi, inshallah.

Not sure what i’m going to write about. I’m about to wing it.

Winter is here despite falling 20 days short of it. Kemarin my facebook memory alert reminded me that this time around last year street entertainers were still in shorts. ani cuba tia seluar pindik… inda jua jadi statue. aku ani menunggu snow saja ni kan jadi si Elsa. Elsa binti Junit.

hahaha.

We havent had sunshine for 3 weeks straight. All my life i’ve never had a doctor prescribe me with Vitamin D. Apparently in countries where sunlight is abundant you produce your own Vitamin D. Inda plang ku sure untuk apa Vitamin D ani.. but if i could associate it with a flavour it would taste like the beach. Kalau ku makan 10 biji…mcm ke Hawaii kali effect nya. ataupun effect mcm lapas kana suruh bebaris acara padang hari hari for one month…hahahaha imagine ku bangun skali ada takah tudung warna putih siring siring muka ku hahahahaa and i dont even wear the tudung..- “balum lagi..inshallah.”

i dont know why the end of that sentence seems to be the standard disclaimer for non-hijab wearing girls. i wouldn’t say it myself, but when i do say i don’t wear the hijab..almost always, someone near me would chime in and go ‘balum lagi, inshallah’. I wonder if these people are one day going to charge me for their services.

memang lah balum lagi, inshallah!!! membari pressure saja jua kau ani. krg kana tanya ku balik ‘brapa tah aribulannya inshallah ani?’ apa jawapan ku?? apa ??? APA??????????????????? skali ku telipun line 1800-balum-lagi-inshallah ani engage tia memanjang..ku whatsapp whatsapp nda lagi pandai menjawab. Di hawaii tia kali bagas makan vitamin D.

ok nothing’s been going on in my life. i’m just looking forward to my december holiday.

havent taken leave the whole year..so im feeling somewhat entitled. tau ku plang ngaleh lagi kau. lol. kraja mu cangkul2 pasal atu kau ngaleh.

my neck is suffering the effects of ‘salah bantal’. tapi lurus bantal yang ku pakai atu. ive always wondered where that saying came from. bantal nya kah salah? ataupun mcm ‘aku salah limpangkan kepala ku’. kesian bantal yang inda besalah ani jadi besalah. sudah pun inda besalah, kana jamur lagi tu mcm kanak2 primary school yang kedapatan membaca sweet valley kids bawah mija skulah ugama.

interestingly i came across an article this morning about how the pain you experience in the different parts of your body is related to how you’re feeling emotionally. Kalau lihir ani nya i may have difficulties forgiving.

and that’s really something to think about. nya skali sakit lutut…*tries to remember* oh u have a problem with your ego.

tadi sakit plang lutut ku ani. ani baik tia sudah. he he he.

kalau sakit belakang… you have financial worries..

im not making this up guys…i saw it on facebook……..so it must be legit.

lol.

but if this is the case, then we wouldnt have to resort to medicine anymore. i dont have to see the doctors for my ailments…exsp kalau doktor mu doktor dari belgium kau minta ubat eczema ia bagi banyak2 vitamin d.
so yes, unless they can cure me with money, compliments and pay me enough money to forgive..no more doktoi for me.

tp come to think of it. it could also be that time of the month. and if this is the case then chocolate and sleep fixes everything. sama jua kalau badan mu gatal2.. esp kalau gatal2 nya di EHEM EHEM…bukan ehem ehem bawah..ehem ehem atas huhuhu… jangantah sibuk2 mencari antihestamine.. kau kan period tu ertinya bah eh.

k bye.

signing off..

Dr Elsa binti Junit

Just signing in.

It has been a while innit?

Ive just been keeping myself busy with work and the dramas of Rupaul’s All Stars Drag Race season two. When i’m not watching drag queens lip sync for their lives, i’m on netflix……… trying not to watch Tyrant because it’s racist, Islamophobic and racist, racist, racist….but i can’t keep my eyes off the tv. When im not torrenting, netflixing, you can find me on pizza.be (ordering food) or chasing pavements. Find me on that Nike running app. i think i’m Syazwana18 or Syazwana, not sure. but when you find me, you’d see my face.

and i have nothing else to add.

bye bye.

Muhasabah diri.

I cannot find my flats. My 10 euro H&M flats. I couldn’t have left it at yoga because 1. i havent been going 😛 2. if i did, ill probably remember walking to my care barefooted…cobbled stones are sakit. i don’t know where they are, at the same i’m also questioning why is it that i never buy more than a pair? i mean…. at 10 euros, it’s affordable enough. and depending on how sweaty your feet are, they COULD last a very long time.. huhu. i guess it all boils down to priorities…. i tend to turn a blind eye on them.

i guess that’s what you get for being impulsive. not exactly the kind that would go bungee jumping in the spur of the moment, but the type that would reach for a $XXXX bag instead of the pack of spendet at $XX. *face palm* i’m also known to yolo a 3 piece box from Hector (Belgium’s answer to KFC) when i’m on a freaking diet. i need to change. At 31, i need to be more in control of myself. So here’s the plan….

– go on hnm.com and get at least 3 pairs of black flats.
– buy new spendet
– try not to pass a Hector on the way to /work/home…./hector
– no (binge)eating after 7. lolz
– sembahyang 5 kali sehari.
– it’s time to start spending wisely…..start a budget.
– be kinder to myself.
– bitch about people less
– gotta start taking care of myself better: eating well. get enough sleep. routine pedicure manicure, cabut bulu kirai bulu misai dan sebagainya.
– be grateful every day.

sounds easy enough.

i’ll let you know how i go.

kiss me.

Cookies yang beracun.

I hate Youtube ads. Actually, I hate all ads, Actually. But I hate Youtube ads the most. Youtube ads are the worst. they’re like the Aunty-Aunty you never want to bump into during hari raya. The kind who’d ask you when you are going to kawin? instead of a ‘how are you?’. The exact kind who’d turn you into an ANTI-AUNTY-AUNTY.

I don’t know what’s exactly in my cookies but lately, youtube’s been showing me baby food ads, pregnancy kit ads… mcm..yo? have i been trying to adopt a baby… online…IN MY SLEEP KAH? sleep surfing! that’s it! have i been sleep surfing???? every time i see these pregnancy kit ads..family car ads… family holiday ads… and i’m like ‘YO. YOU TUBE. Was that a read????’

lol even when im thousands of miles away from kampong life, i have cookies…..judging me!

let me think. how has my ‘surfing lifestyle changed’ in the last couple of weeks….mm.. maybe it’s all the ‘kitchen/closet/bedroom/bathroom organizing ideas’ ive entered on google..and the ‘lowest price search’ for a dyson vacuum ???

i dono y. but i think im developing abit of an ocd.

not at all bad. but i dont know how wanting to be more organized and neater translates to having kids?

……………………

OMG.

it’s most probably ALL THE REAL HOUSE WIVES EPISODES IVE BEEN WATCHING.

i just literally thought about this as i typed.

grreat.

LOL.

case solved.

i’m having a baby.

….

a food baby.

ok then.

Puasa di seberang laut.

I think i only did 3 days of fasting last year. I should be embarrassed and I am. But I told myself i’ll make it up this year and will try to puasa as many days as i can. The struggle is in the long hours and the heat of summer. Fortunately (or unfortunately) this year, the seasons have been temperamental. Tulips were growing in winter and spring felt like summer and now that summer’s been here for two weeks, it’s been raining kittens and puppies and i find myself in the basement trying to get my central heating to work again.

So the weather’s acting up like a bad flu..but its ok. i actually prefer it this way rather than having to deal with the actual wrath of summer… and perhaps this is a chance for me to get in more fasting days. I’m entering the 6th day … and it hasn’t been so bad. almost. this also means that ive been off coffee ..like ‘cold turkey’ off coffee..for almost 6 days and i’m still experiencing some set backs in the mornings..but i do feel i’m getting better.

slow pulang masih..mcm to the point that i’m surprised i’m still able to remember who i am when i wake up to go to work in the mornings. Anothing thing i discovered today is that i better stay off the roads whilst fasting because the roads aren’t as friendly. not like they were friendly to begin with but lets just say i wouldn’t want to be a pedestrian during this fasting month, exsp when i know I’M BEHIND THE STEERING WHEEL.

Earlier after work i thought i’d venture out into the city to pay the asian grocery a visit.. i quickly regretted the decision when i realised that my mind wasn’t as sharp to anticipate pedestrians crossing from ALL CORNERS OF THE UNIVERSE OF THE PRINCESS OF THE EARTH and having to find alternative routes due to closed roads and tunnels. mcm. shit. i couldn’t freakin deal! every time i glanced at Waze it kept on showing that it would take me at least 25-30 minutes to get home… i felt like i was on a never ending mountain hike with lunatics. but hey on the upside i scored Kangkung and Yan Yan!

When i reached home with my kangkung haul it was almost six… took a nap to wake up at 8pm.. haha siang masih. these days, whenever i take a nap and wake up around 7-8pm and still be greeted by the glaring sun, i make a little joke and tel myself – “kalau kan menjamur bantal pun sampat lagi ni”.

these long hours sans coffee are really #ramadhanchallenge hashtag worthy yo. this is the longest ive gone without coffee in my system. not even a drop. i hate the fact that i’m so dependent on it.. i need it to function.. i need it to remember where i’m going …i need it to remember MY NAME. I’ve forgotten what it’s like to live without it. It’s time for all that to change.

huhu.hopefully by next week i can go back to living like a normal human being……. also known as ‘a tea drinker’

hahaha. jeng jeng jeng.

The only ramadhan hack that i can certify as full proof is to drink loads and loads of water. I usually get 3 litres on a normal day and i’ve been able to work in the same amount since the start of puasa.. the only shortcoming is the fact that i am forced to chug everything in a shorter time period. Not easy when fasting starts at 3am and ends at 9:54pm… and having to wake up between 3am and 8am to freakin PEE. I lose sleep to PEE. It doesn’t help that the sun rises as early as 3:30 alongside birds singing like they’re in a choir competition.

on another note i hope this month brings us all the other joys of life and akhirat. inshallah.

selamat berpuasa everyone.

kiss me.

Why i’m still a blogger.

i love blogging. it’s a platform for ME. it’s a place where i can safely talk about me me me me me without being interrupted and judged because those who read here respect that it’s my personal space to talk about whatever the fuck i want.

You see, the topic of ‘me’ does not translate really well in real life. People don’t like it when you talk about yourself too much. Even if you’re not talking about yourself, sometimes people intentionally or unintentionally tend to dismiss you.

But here im referencing PEOPLE. It’s kinda ‘ok not ok’ for PEOPLE to dismiss you for talking too much but it’s a whole different story when it comes to FRIENDS.

I do have friends who are genuinely interested to know how i’ve been and what i’ve been up to..and in return i would invest the same amount of time on them. however, lets just say some are better at this than others.

Have you been in situations where you’re caught up in telling a story and you catch the person you’re talking to staring off into space mikirkan isi pocket Doraemon – disinterested? ESPECIALLY after hearing them talk about themselves for a good HOUR?

this is beyond pet peeve ok guys.

You dont get to dismiss somebody even if you find the topic that they’re talking about is boring or irrelevant to your life, cause truthfully they might be thinking the same about you and the shit that you’ve just served on their plate.

But hey i dont know about you but i’m not clocking time or throwing shade cause at the end of the day we are FRIENDS and FRIENDS LET EACH OTHER TALK, BITCH, RANT whatever you want to call it…and if you call yourself a friend, you have the duty to listen and react accordingly..don’t just leave them hanging..be polite and PRETEND to be interested. pretending isn’t being fake. pretending in this context is POLITE..and it could very well SAVE a friendship.

But i understand that some people don’t necessarily share the same courtesy or manners..i dont know, maybe some just have terrible ADD. but to those who are reading this..perhaps try to be a little bit more kinder? be a bit more conscious of your actions towards others.

Good friends at this age aren’t easy to find..and you’re not perfect. Appreciate those who cared enough to stay in your life*.

*this is also a self reminder.

Doraemon kimsalam.

My dear Lisa, you are one of the best listeners in my life and i’m glad our paths crossed. Happy 32nd birthday chook. I couldn’t ask for a better bestie. Love you.

(she doesn’t read here, she doesn’t need to, cause she listens)

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